We are all humans at the end of the day, and we all feel miserable at some point or other. We feel sad when we lose a loved one, or when we fail in exams, or when we get the sack at work. Other times, people make us feel dejected, by mockery, scorn or even jealousy. Sometimes, the sting in our side results from thinking our duaas are unanswered, and perhaps this is the most dispiriting of all.
Yet we should not lose hope, for Allah says, “Indeed, no one despairs of relief from Allah except the disbelieving people.” (Surah Yusuf 12:87) And Allah reminds us that He is The Responsive, “And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me – indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me.” (02:186) So how then, can we ever feel disparaged?
Rather we must come to know our Lord, learn about Him, and His Beautiful Attributes, and realise our errors. Perhaps our duaa is apparently not reponded to due to some short-coming on our part. We have to analyse ourselves and our supplications, are exerting our efforts in our duaas trying our best to ask in accordance to the Sunnah? (You can learn more about the Etiquettes of duaas here)
So here are some reasons why the response to you duaa may be withheld:
1)The duaa is weak: Meaning that one asks for something impermissible or inappropriate. Or perhaps he exhibits bad manners towards Allah. Or perhaps he ask Allah in manner that is not acceptable such associating partners to Him.
Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “A person’s du’aa’s will continue to be answered so long as he does not pray for something sinful or for the breaking of family ties.” (Muslim)
2) The person is weak: This is another instance of bad manners towards Allah. Maybe the one invoking does not truly believe in Allah’s ability to fulfil the duaa. Or the person does not display humility in his duaa, nor need. Rather he rushes his duaas, repeating memorised words, with no emotion. Or perhaps, he over exercises fake emotions, crying loudly, or shouting.
3) Sins: sins obscure the path of duaa, so ensure you seek Allah’s forgiveness, and repent sincerely to Him
4) Being negligent/heedless:
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Call upon Allah when you are certain of a response, and remember that Allah will not answer a du’aa’ that comes from a negligent and heedless heart.” (Tirmidhi, Hasan by Sh Al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi)
So be conscious of what you are asking, and ensure you focus on your duaas. Implore Allah with humility and presence of mind.
5) Consuming haram: Whether it is wealth, food and drink, because the Messenger mentioned the case of “a man who, having journeyed far, is dishevelled and dusty, and who spreads out his hands to the sky saying “O Lord! O Lord!” while his food is haram (unlawful), his drink is haram, his clothing is haram, and he has been nourished with haram, so how can [his supplication] be answered?” (Muslim)
6) Hastening: Whilst we know Allah is fully capable of giving an immediate response to our duaas, we should not become impatient when the response takes time. For Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), “The supplication of every one of you will be granted if he does not get impatient and say (for example): ‘I supplicated my Rabb but my prayer has not been granted’.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
7) Setting conditions, such as saying “If you will,” “Inshallah” and other similar statements. Rather the person should be firm,
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Let not any one of you say, ‘O Allah, forgive me if You will, O Allah, have mercy on me if You will.’ Let him be resolute in the matter, whilst knowing that no one can compel Allah to do anything.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
8) Did you send Salutation upon the Prophet?
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Every du’aa’ is kept back until you send blessings upon the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him).” (At-Tabaraani in al-Awsat, Saheeh by Sh Al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’)
9) Allah loves to see you invoking Him: Perhaps the answer is near at hand, but Allah loves to see you imploring him. Perhaps you would not invoke Allah if you did not have this need, so Allah keeps you in this condition.
10) Know that the response may take different forms:
It was narrated from Abu Sa’eed that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “There is no Muslim who does not offer any du’aa’ in which there is no sin or severing of family ties but Allah will give him one of three things in return: either He will answer his du’aa’ sooner, or he will store it up for him in the Hereafter, or He will divert an equivalent evil away from him because of it.” They said: “We will say a lot of du’aa’.” He said: “Allah is more generous.” (Ahmad, Saheeh by Sh Al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb)
Hence be aware, that perhaps through your invocations Allah is saving you from something evil, or he stores it for the hereafter.
To conclude, there are many reasons why your duaa may be unanswered. One should contemplate his shortcomings, and seek to rectify and improve himself. Nonetheless, Allah knows when it is best to answer your duaa and how is best. Is He not the Knower of all things? Is He not Wise in all His decisions? We should submit to his decree, without feeling hopeless or pessimistic. Rather we uphold hope, and continue to trust that Allah will answer our duaas, and thus should continue to invoke Allah repeating our supplications, praising and exalting Him alone.
May Allah grant us the best in this life and the next.