Category Archives: Ways To Jannah

Easy ways for us to attain the pleasure of our Lord, and earn the reward of Paradise.

Are You A Liar?!

An article on lying, pretty cliché you would say, we have been through this! Since time immemorial, the story of the boy who cried wolf has been passed down generations, articles, sermons, warnings and advises on ‘lying’ jam our minds. Funny then it should seem, that with all the propaganda on lying, the act of lying yet remains the most rampant of sins to date.

We now have professional liars and lying is now considered an art! Elusive and endearing as it may be, it still is one of the most heinous crimes out there. Helas! If only we were to fathom the magnitude of this crime for definitely most of us take it very lightly to the extent that most of us fail to recognize ourselves as liars.

Hence in this article, I am not here to preach, persuade and lecture you all on how horrendous lying is, most of us probably know the punishments of lying etc. This article is for you and me to diagnose ourselves as to whether we are liars (intentionally or unintentionally)

This might come to you as a shock to you but here are the characteristics of the Liar:

  1. Making many promises and making many excuses (Oh dear, this totally treads on our art of escaping situations making excuses)
  2. Delaying and procrastinating (Bull’s eye!!)
  3. Lack of adherence to covenants and lack of fulfilling promises
  4. Excessiveness in speech if it is in his worldly favor and deficiency in speaking if it is beneficial for his Deen (practice of Islam)
  5. Lack of haste in speaking the truth
  6. Beautifying the speech to conceal the wrongs that he does to himself
  7. He has no honour that encourages him to do good or prevents him doing evil

Oh heavens , who knew we were afflicted by so many symptoms, but do not despair, all is not lost, we can always improvise and although I said no sermonizing I do believe that I definitely should quote this hadith to you all:

The Messenger (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “I guarantee a house in the middle of Paradise for a person who avoids lying, even if he was joking.”

[Abu Dawud ~ Hadith Sahih]

Bingo, not lying is a way to Jannah, so now let’s pull up our sleeves and pledge to be honest, I know it’s no piece of cake, but by seeking Allah’s help and remaining sincere, this will be a feat that we shall accomplish In Sha Allah.

 

Scruples, Sermons, Alarms and Temptations

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Whilst walking past her, I felt so shy, my conscience told me not to ignore her and coaxed me to greet her by saying Salam, yet my mouth remained clamped shut and she passed away and along with her an opportunity to have received reward from Allah.

Another time, as I waltzed my way to my college entrance, I saw the cleaner, an elderly man with graying hair and a worn out face doing his menial labour, the 1 riyal note in my bag seemed to buzz like an alarm on a still night, but the thought of pausing and opening my bag and then my wallet seemed to weigh me down, finally my indolence won the upper hand and I crossed past him bearing the shock of my incredulous lethargy all the while yet consoling myself that I definitely would be kind to him the next time I meet him.

At another instance, as I stayed awake late at night cramming for my exam, a look at the clock alerted me to the fact that there was just 1 hour left to Fajr and I also had to go to college, alarmed I hurried to my bed, frightened at the prospect of waking up late for college, when realization dawned upon me that I could read Tahajjud; one of the most noble of deeds, yet the plush pillows and cozy bed seemed to call upon me like a sweet haven enticing me to forget the exhaustion and fatigue of the day to a sleep of sweetness and respite. Being a temptress of fame, I gave in to its cajoling and lay down on it and slept.

Yet another time, when I was behaving all pompously preaching to my sister on the merits of maintaining the ties of kinship, my sister questioned me whether I myself followed what I advised, making me realize that I was perfectly emulating the role of a preacher that herself needed preaching.

Introversion, gluttony, temptation, ostentation, are these seriously the best excuses that we can come up for missing rewards. Oh come on! I am certain that I alone am not afflicted with these ailments but many of us let opportunities slip past our fingers due to incredulously foolish reasons.

So, let the following hadith now be a reminder to us not to let our insolences take the dominant hand and frankly speaking these simple tasks are no trek to the Everest, We all are quite capable of doing them.

The Messenger (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “O mankind! Spread the salutation, feed the poor and needy, join the ties of kinship and offer prayers at night while the people are asleep and you shall enter Paradise in peace.” [Ibn Majah]

This hadith shows four types of worship which help one enter paradise with no hardship.

These four actions are:

  1. Spreading salutation (salam) by making it apparent to those whom you know and those whom you don’t know from the Muslims.
  2. Feeding the poor and needy by giving charity other than the Zakaat which is obligatory.
  3. Joining the ties of kinship from family and relatives.
  4. Praying the night prayers whilst everyone else is asleep.
    The final third of the night is considered to be the best time for this prayer because it is the time that Allah Almighty descends to the lowest heaven in order to forgive those whom are praying and grant them what they ask for

And Allah Knows Best!

So, my dear friends lets jog up, these tasks truly are simple yet noble and with Allah’s help and a strong will power, we certainly can accomplish doing them.

Read further on the immense benefits of joining kith and kins at: http://aateam.org/blog/silatur-rahm/ and http://aateam.org/blog/abandoning-your-brother/

Bint Ayesha

Four In A Day

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We all crave for paradise, yet don’t want to work for it, perhaps it’s just a false hope that we have instilled within us that guarantees us paradise free of cost, but frankly and realistically speaking, has there been anything in our lives that has ever been free of cost? Some items may have been easier to procure than others, but never has it been completely gratis, if not monetarily than we have always have had to pay in some other form, unless and until it has been given to us in the way of Allah.

So don’t you think it is ridiculously idiotic of us to expect the most valuable treasure of all to be given to us scot free. As a matter of fact, even if we were to devote our entire life in worship and religion, we yet wouldn’t be worthy of paradise, yes its true! My dear friends, the most incorrigible mistake that we ever make is not being able to fathom the value of paradise, we have taken it so lightly that even a fancy party is now described as “heavenly”. In fault though our comprehension may be in, we have to get our frontal lobe set our priorities and conception right.

We have to comprehend the value of paradise and we must realize that it is entirely because of Allah’s mercy that we may be able to attain paradise, so we must do we what He has ordered us to do i.e. Asbaab (efforts)

So, in this context, I shall state a hadith which dictates a golden pathway to paradise:

The Messenger (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) asked, “Who is fasting today?” Abu Bakr (May Allah be pleased with him) replied, “Me”.
The Messenger (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) asked, “Who has followed a funeral procession today?” Abu Bakr (May Allah be pleased with him) replied, “Me”.
The Messenger (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) asked, “Who has fed a poor person today?” Abu Bakr (May Allah be pleased with him) replied, “Me”.
The Messenger (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) asked, “Who has visited a sick person today?” Abu Bakr (May Allah be pleased with him)  replied, “Me”.
The Messenger (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) then said, “Any person that has done these four things in one day will enter Paradise.”
[Sahih Muslim]

This hadith shows the virtue of performing four types of actions in one single day whereby the prophet (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) mentioned that the person who does these four actions in one day will be granted paradise.

These four actions are:

  1. Fasting
  2. Visiting a sick person
  3. Following a funeral procession
  4. Feeding a poor person

The hadith also shows the virtue of Abu Bakr Al-Sideeq (May Allah be pleased with him) when the prophet (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) asked who had performed these actions it was he who had performed them. He is the greatest companion of the prophet (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and was always the first in performing good deeds may Allah be pleased with him.
And Allah Knows Best!

All these tasks are indeed noble and can be individually contemplated on and Alhamdulillah, these commissions are no trek to Mount Everest. Rather it is something that we can easily do but of course there shall be the usual complaints of lack of opportunity, but then remember opportunities come by to those who search and seek them.

“We often miss opportunity because it’s dressed in overalls and looks like work”
― Thomas A. Edison

 

Read more on the virtues of visiting the sick which, hip hip hooray, is also a “ way to Jannah”

http://aateam.org/blog/when-seventy-thousand-angels-send-blessings/

 

The Apple of Daddy’s Eye

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Crawling on their tiny feet, their voices bubbling with laughter, their shining innocent eyes beseeching their mothers, the apple of their daddies eyes, a piece of mommy’s heart, a child is indeed a huge blessing from Allah.

As I look around, I see mamas buying tiny frocks filled with spark, sequin and glitter, daddy buying toys and cars, all smiling with sheer delight as their child frolics around.

True is said, when one says that bearing patience is no feat, but imagine the surmount patience required when the coolness of one’s eye, when their child beloved galore is taken away.

Allah is indeed Ar- Raheem (the Most Merciful), Al Wudood (The Most Loving) and He knows the excruciating pain that a parent goes through at the loss of their child and so he has guaranteed Paradise for such a parent as long as he bears this trial, (for definitely this can be called a trial and one of the greatest calamities in fact) with patience, In Sha Allah.

Al-Tirmidhi (942) narrated that Abu Sinaan said: “I buried my son Sinaan and Abu Talhah al-Khoolaani was sitting at the graveside. When I wanted to go out he took my hand and said, “Shall I not give you some glad tidings, O Abu Sinaan?” I said, “Yes.” He said, “Al-Dahhaak ibn ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Arzab narrated to me from Abu Moosa al-Ash’ari that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “When a person’s child dies, Allah says to His angels, ‘You have taken the child of My slave.’ They say, ‘Yes.’ He says, ‘You have taken the apple of his eye.’ They say, ‘Yes.’ He says, ‘What did My slave say?’ They say, ‘He praised you and said “Innaa lillaahi wa inna ilayhi raaji’oon (Verily to Allah we belong and unto Him is our return).’ Allah says, ‘Build for My slave a house in Paradise and call it the house of praise.’’
Furthermore, The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said “There is no women amongst you whom has three of her children die before her except that they will be a barrier for her from hell fire” A women then asked the Messenger “and even two?” and He (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) replied “and even two” [Classed as Sahih by Sh Al-Albaani]

These ahaadeeth explain that if two or more of a person’s children die and he bears that with patience, then he is promised Paradise and salvation from the Fire.

Our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) taught us a du’aa’ to say at times of calamity, in which there is virtue and great reward.

inna-lillahi

 

Also, remember that indeed Allah loves As-Saabiroon (the patient)”
[Aal ‘Imraan 3:146]

We ask Allah to bless such a tested parent with patience in the face of their loss, and to compensate them with something better. And Allah knows best.

Bint Ayesha
AAT, Writer

A Mosaic Lost

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The sun rises as a blazing bowl of fire, tinting the horizon with red, pink and gold. Irradiating with its rays golden sands and oceans azure, its waves rippling welcoming the morning bright. Herbage in different shades of green decorating lush forests aided by flowers of an array of colours befitting an artists’ palette.

The cities with its cosmopolitan civilizations with its sky scrapers greeting the sky, a realm of lights and sounds.

Different landscapes bringing in threads of different admiration and awe, forming a colourful mosaic embedded in the heart and witnessed by the eye.

And what if this kaleidoscope of colours were to turn pitch black, with not a ray of light and only the feeling of claustrophobia seeping in, perhaps that is how it must be when one becomes blind.

Cut off from the colours and beauty of this world, life must then appear cumbersome and dreary, hopeless and arid.

Yet there is a hope for such individuals, and I won’t say that it is a glimmer of hope for verily this hadith by far is so powerful that it could fill a persons’ entire life with hope:

The Messenger (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Allah The Most High has said, ‘If I take away the eyesight of a slave of Mine and he shows patience and seeks My reward, then I shall reward him with nothing less than Paradise.”[Sahih Al-Bukhari]

This hadith shows the virtue of being patient at the loss of one’s eyesight whereby the Prophet (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) mentioned that the person who loses their eyesight, remains patient and awaits the reward with Allah Almighty, Allah will grant them paradise.
And Allah Knows Best!

Indeed being patient is no easy feat, but Allah has made patience like a horse that never gets tired, an army that can never be defeated and a strong fortress that can never be breached. Patience and victory are twin brothers, for victory comes with patience, relief comes with distress and ease comes with hardship. Patience is of more help to the one who has it than men, as it helps without any need for equipment or numbers and its relationship to victory is like that of the head to the body.

My message to all those who have been afflicted with blindness is to stay firm and hold on to patience as a lifesaver and hope for reward and Paradise from the All Merciful.

“Surely, Allah is with those who are AsSaabiroon (the patient)
[al-Anfaal 6:46]

Bint Ayesha
AAT; Writer

Footsteps in Paradise

The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon Him ) called upon Bilal (May Allah be pleased with him) and said, “What did you do to deserve entering Paradise? For I have heard the rustling of your garment in front of me in Paradise.” He replied, “O Messenger of Allah! I have never called the Athaan except that I have prayed two units of prayer after it, and no impurity has ever happened to me except that I have made ablution after it.” Rasulullah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon Him) then said, “It is because of them.”
[Ibn Khuzaimah ~ Hadith Sahih]

We benefit from this hadith:

  • Bilal (May Allah be pleased with him) is from the people of paradise because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon Him) witnessed this for him whereby he heard his footsteps in paradise.
  • The virtue of praying two units of prayer after athan because this was one of the reasons that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon Him) heard Bilal’s (May Allah be pleased with him) steps in paradise.
  • The virtue of performing ablution after impurity.

And Allah Knows Best!

Whilst some of us yet struggle to read our nawafil properly, reading after every wudhu may seem like a big order, but then again Paradise is something that we truly need to work for.

And then there goes the saying Where there is a will, there is a way

Once we set it upon ourselves to do something and most importantly pray to Allah, Allah will help us
Furthermore, being in the month of Ramadan with distractions at its minimum, we can surely contrive to accomplish our goal

It is said that if we perform an act regularly for a month, it becomes second to nature and we then do it all around the year.

Then surely if we practice doing this deed regularly throughout a month, we can achieve to pray after every ablution all throughout the year by Allah’s help.

May Allah keep us steadfast!

Bint Ayesha

Writer, AAT

After Tasleem

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After ending the prayer, we are often in a rush to join the rat race of life, and get back to work, and the endless list of chores. But in our hurry we miss out on a great deal of blessings and opportunities that take no more than a few moments.

The Prophet  said: “The angels invoke blessings on any of you who remains in his prayer place as long as he does not invalidate his ablution, saying, ‘O Allaah, forgive him; O Allaah, have mercy on him.’” [Maalik, Al-Bukhaari and others]

We all are acquainted with the tasbeeh, and the regular duaa; ‘Allahumma antas salaam..’ and the rewards for saying such. But nonetheless here is a brief reminder;

Muslim narrated from Ka‘b ibn ‘Ujrah that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Dhikrs after the prayer, the one who says them or does them after each obligatory prayer will not be disappointed: thirty-three tasbeehahs, thirty-three tahmeedahs and thirty-four takbeerahs.”

Al-Mugheerah ibn Shu‘bah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) used to say, following every obligatory prayer: “Laa ilaaha ill-Allah wahdahu laa shareeka lah, lahu’l-mulk wa lahu’l-hamd wa huwa ‘ala kulli shay’in qadeer, Allaahumma laa maani’ lima a’tayta wa laa mu’ti lima mana’ta wa la yanfa’ dhaa’l-jadd minka al-jadd.” (There is no god except Allah alone with no partner or associate, His is the sovereignty and to Him be praise and He is able to do all things. O Allah, none can withhold what You give and none can give what You withhold, and no wealth or majesty can benefit anyone for from You is all wealth and majesty).” (Bukhari)

But how about the less common dhikhr? Let’s take the time to memorise these adhkaar so that we may reap the benefits in the hereafter;

Ibn ‘Umar said: Whoever says following every prayer and when he goes to bed, ‘Allahu akbar kabeera ‘adad ash-shaf‘i wa’l-witr, wa kalimaat Allah at-taammaati at-tayyibaati al-mubaarakaat (Allah is Most Great the number of the even and the odd, and the blessed, pure, perfect words of Allah)’ three times, and ‘Laa ilaaha ill-Allah (there is no god but Allah) the same number of times, they will be light  for him in his grave, and light on the jisr (bridge), and light on the siraat (bridge over Hell), until they admit him to Paradise, or until he enters Paradise.’

(Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaybah 29256, with a Sahih isnad)

Short and simple, easy to say and remember, but how many of us will make the effort? We seldom realise that the grave is a reality, and it is dark, and will be even more so for one who fails to enlighten it before death overtakes him. And how about the ‘Jisr’ and the ‘Siraat’? The Siraat as we know; it is thinner than a hair yet sharper than a blade. Some will be able to race across, their lights guiding them, and others will fall to the depths of hell. As for the jisr, some scholars say it is the siraat and others say it is the Qantara between hellfire and paradise on which muslims will retract their rights from each other if they were wronged. Nonetheless whichever of the two it is, we will need light to guide us across.

“On the Day you see the believing men and believing women, their light proceeding before them and on their right, [it will be said], “Your good tidings today are [of] gardens beneath which rivers flow, wherein you will abide eternally.” That is what is the great attainment. On the [same] Day the hypocrite men and hypocrite women will say to those who believed, “Wait for us that we may acquire some of your light.” It will be said, “Go back behind you and seek light.” And a wall will be placed between them with a door, its interior containing mercy, but on the outside of it is torment.” (Surah Hadid 57:12-13)

So let us learn this short duaa, and implement it, so that we will be amongst those believers who possess a light to guide them.

‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “There are two qualities, whoever adheres to them they will admit him to Paradise. They are simple but those who do them are few.” They said: What are they, O Messenger of Allah? He said: “To praise Allah, magnify Him and glorify Him following every obligatory prayer, ten times each; and when you go to bed, glorify Allah and magnify Him and praise Him one hundred times each. (That will be) two hundred and fifty on the tongue and two thousand five hundred in the Balance.

(Collected by Ahmad, It was classed as hasan by the commentators on al-Musnad.)

We know that praising Allah and glorifying Him holds immense weight in filling our scales, and it is beloved to Allah. So what further encouragement do we need to spare a few moments to praise Allah, thanking Him for His innumerable bounties that He has bestowed upon us? Paradise is waiting, its gates are calling, its scent is tempting…but what will we do to earn the paradise of our Lord?

Zainab Dowlut, AAT

The Inroads to a Successful Future

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As I take a peek at the now present world, I see a multitude of people waiting in a queue for a job employment, their certificates with its illustrious golden insignia, emblazoned with grades of flying colours, in their hands.

Now a days, it seems literacy and education are the ‘in’ words, where almost every Tom, Dick and Harry have a qualification to flaunt. Colleges and educational institutes appear to be clogged with students trying to pursue their studies.

It further surprises me even more, when I realize the different spectra of jobs that the employment agencies have now to offer, specialization in fields such as human resources, epidemiology, public health and even in advertisements!

It is not that I am debasing these job opportunities, but am merely expressing my surprise, at the assortment of career opportunities that the world now has to offer.

All these in the end simply signifies the escalation of the value of knowledge, as people now consider gaining knowledge as investing in their future, aspiring to be like King Midas with his gold touch.

But my dear friends, shall I inform you that knowledge that shall truly pave the diamond encrusted path to a golden future, the sort of education that shall prove beneficial in the ‘real’ future.

Perhaps most of you may have by now guessed what I am referring to.

The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “He who treads the path in search of (Islamic) knowledge, Allah will make easy for him a path to paradise. [Sahih Muslim]

Subhan Allah, what better future can one envision than Paradise. May Allah make us of the people of Jannah.

Furthermore gaining Islamic Knowledge is obligatory on us as the hadith says: ‘Seeking knowledge is obligatory upon every Muslim.’” (220. Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan Ibn Maajah.

Knowledge and fear of Allah may be attained by knowing His signs and creation. The knowledgeable are those who know that, hence Allah praises them by saying (interpretation of the meaning):

“It is only those who have knowledge among His slaves that fear Allah” [Faatir 35:28]

But there is no goodness in knowledge which is not confirmed by action, or words which are not confirmed by deeds. Hence it is incumbent that we act upon what we learn.

“Knowledge must come through action; you can have no test which is not fanciful, save by trial.” Sophocles (496 BC – 406 BC), Trachiniae

In addition to our resolutions, seeking Allah’s help is absolutely crucial, for Allah alone can help us in our quests

رَّبِّ زِدۡنِي عِلۡمٗا

‘Rabbi Zidni Ilma’

“O my Lord increase me in knowledge!”

Bint Ayesha

Writer, AAT

When Seventy Thousand Angels send Blessings!

Eyes watering and red, with the temperature rising, and an agonizing pain coursing the body, lying on our sides, and when swelling in our throat dutifully sends a stabbing pain, a groan escapes through our mouth…

At this moment, the doorbell rings and enters someone, a platter of brownies in one hand and a basket of freshly picked strawberries in the other, with a dazzling smile that reminds one of bright sunshine and golden buttercups, a soft voice that enquires about our wellbeing. A streak of happiness gushes forth and satisfaction sets in, as we realize that our existence may have some weight in the hearts of others.

Certainly when one is ill, not only does the physical and biochemical state of our body change, but our attitude also undergoes some modification, for the time being at least, and we learn to be more appreciative, and even a simple smile from others sends warmth down our hearts.

So dear friends, can we then not try to appease these dejected ones, by simply visiting them, as we do acknowledge the significance of our short detour to their houses in their lives.

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But our intentions should be pure, and we should strive to principally please our Rabb by doing these humble acts of kindness for verily the Messenger (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “The one who visits the sick is like a person who is in a fruit garden of Paradise until he returns.”
[Sahih Muslim]

Subhan Allah, “a fruit garden of paradise,” indeed if only we were to perceive the magnitude of this phrase, then certainly we would hasten to the sides of our sick brothers.

But the glad tidings do not cease here, for the following ahadith just intensifies the rewards for this simple deed:
Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) say: “There is no Muslim who visits a (sick) Muslim early in the morning but seventy thousand angels send blessings upon him until evening comes, and if he visits him in the evening, seventy thousand angels send blessings upon him until morning comes, and he will have a garden in Paradise.”
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi (969)

Allahu Akbar, think about it, seventy thousand angels, angels who don’t know about disobedience, who are pure, to think that they were to pray for us should indeed stir our hearts.

Furthermore, Imam Ahmad narrated that Jaabir (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever visits a sick person is plunging into mercy until he sits down, and when he sits down he is submerged in it.”
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 2504.

And also, The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever visits a sick person or visits a brother in Islam, a caller cries out to him: ‘May you be happy, may your walking be blessed, and may you occupy a dignified position in Paradise’.”
Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi (2008)

Visiting the sick does not involve only those whom you know, rather it is prescribed for those whom you know and those whom you do not know. This was stated by al-Nawawi in Sharh Muslim. Also one should follow the proper etiquettes whilst paying such a visit.

My dear friends, compared to the intense amounts of reward, that this deed brings us, shouldn’t we bring about a change in our attitudes and opinions. Visiting the sick, now should no longer seem to us as a colossal task, rather the rewards that this simple deed brings to us is indeed phenomenal.

So finally my friends, let’s take the initiative to rush to our ailing friends with the sole purpose of pleasing Our Creator, and to pave for ourselves the path to Paradise by the mercy of Allah, whilst making our sick friends smile.

Bint Ayesha, Writer, AAT

Three Daughters

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“Oh dear, did they get another one! I seriously feel sorry for them, for already having two daughters and now having a third one… What terrible luck!!!”

Three daughters or more are often considered to be taboo in some societies and parents have to bear the endless expressions of unwanted sympathy, pity and commiserations, consoling the parents by saying “Don’t worry, don’t grieve, we shall pray that you shall be blessed with a boy next time In Sha Allah.” Even on christening ceremonies, the new born daughter is looked upon by pitiful faces and given wishes for good fortune.

“Good fortune”! Indeed, does such a term even properly apply to us Muslims who believe in the concept of predestined fate. Then why should we offer our condolences to such parents when Allah Ar Raaziq has willed for such a girl to enter into this world as their daughter.

By our incessant condolences, we actually turn the short lived happiness that the parents feel into despair, giving them the feeling of being unfortunate, making them feel derogatory! Yet should having a girl cause such despair?

What about the hadith where the Messenger (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Whoever has three daughters or three sisters, cares for them and disciplines them, he and I shall be like this is in Paradise” – as he was putting his index and middle fingers together.” [Abu Ya’la ~ Classed as Sahih by Sh Al-Albaani]

This hadith shows the virtue and importance of caring for ones’ daughters and sisters whereby the Prophet (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) mentioned that whoever has three daughters or three sisters and cares for them and disciplines them, they will be in paradise. Islam emphasizes the importance of caring for our daughters and sisters due to their fragility and sensitivity, so they require protection from their fathers and brothers so that no harm is done to them.

Moreover, this hadeeth applies to both the father and the mother. The same applies if he has sisters or paternal or maternal aunts etc., and he treats them kindly, we hope that he will attain Paradise for that.

And Allah knows best.

Our blessed Prophet (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) also had 4 daughters, and he treated them with utmost kindness.

He Prophet (peace be upon him) would stand up for his daughter Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her) when she would come to him, take her hands, kiss her and let her take his seat. Likewise, whenever the prophet (peace be upon him) came to her she would stand up for him, take his hand and kiss him.

So therefore, it is incumbent that we annihilate this ridiculous notion where girls are considered to be a burden on their parents, for indeed they by the will of Allah may be the pavement for their parents to paradise, and a protection from the fire.

Furthermore, it should be understood that just giving birth to three daughters does not fulfil the criteria of the aforementioned hadith, rather it is important that we raise them up and discipline them according to the Islamic Shariah.

May Allah facilitate for us the path to Jannah Ameen

Bint Ayesha, AAT, Writer