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How to Perform Umrah

So dear readers, we are back again, now after reading the previous article, let us now continue on this journey to enlighten ourselves about Hajj In Sha Allah

Now if you haven’t read the previous article, I would strongly recommend you to do so, as the first step of Umrah (which we shall cover currently) is Ihram, explained in the previous article.

Umrah consists of ihraam, tawaf, saa’i and shaving the head or cutting the hair.

To understand the steps of Umrah, let us commence by first understanding the different types of Tawaf.

1. Tawaf

1. Types of circumambulation:

2. Conditions for the validity of Tawaf

Now most of the acts of worship have conditions, so let’s see what conditions of Tawaf are,

There are thirteen conditions for the validity of Tawaf (circumambulation) as follows:

3. Steps of performing Tawaf

It is preferred to do Ghusl when entering Makkah

When the pilgrim approaches Makkah, he should do ghusl before entering, if possible, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did ghusl when he entered Makkah. [Narrated by Muslim, 1259.]

1. When he enters al-Masjid al-Haraam he should do so with his right foot first, and say:

“Bismillaah wa’l-salaatu wa’l-salaam ‘ala Rasool-Allaah A’oodhu Billaah il-‘Azeem wa bi wajhih il-kareem wa bi sultaanih il-‘qadeem min al-Shaytaan il-rajeem Allaahumma aftah li abwaab rahmatika.

(In the name of Allaah, and blessings and peace be upon the Messenger of Allaah. I seek refuge with Allaah the Almighty and in His noble Countenance and His eternal power from the accursed Satan O Allaah open to me the gates of Your mercy.)

2. Then he should go to the Black Stone in order to start Tawaf.

3. He should touch the Stone with his right hand and kiss it; if he cannot kiss it then he should touch it with his right hand and kiss his hand. If he cannot touch it with his hand then he should face the Stone and point to it with his right hand and say “Allaahu Akbar”, but he should not kiss his hand.

There is great virtue for touching the Black stone.

 

It is better not to crowd around and cause annoyance to people or be annoyed by them, because of the hadeeth in which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to Umar: “O Umar, you are a strong man, do not crowd around the Stone and disturb the weak. If you find space, then touch it, otherwise just face it and say ‘Allaahu Akbar.’” [Narrated by Ahmad, 191; classed as qawiy by al-Albaani in Risaalat Manaasik al-Hajj wa’l-‘Umrah, p. 21.]

4. Then he should move towards the right, with the Ka’bah on his left.

5. When he reaches the Yemeni Corner (al-Rukn al-Yamaani, which is the third corner after the Black Stone) he should touch it with his right hand, without kissing his hand or saying “Allaahu Akbar”. If he cannot touch it then he should move on, and not crowd around it.

6. Between the Yemeni Corner and the Black Stone he should say:

اللَّهُمَّ رَبَّنَا آتِنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةً وَفِي الآخِرَةِ حَسَنَةً وَقِنَا عَذَابَ النَّارِ

“Allahumma Rabbanaa aatina fi’l-dunya hasanah wa fi’l-aakhirah hasanah wa qinna ‘adhaab al-Naar

O Allah! Our Lord! Give us in this world that, which is good and in the Hereafter that, which is good and save us from the torment of the Fire.”

[Sahih Bukhari Vol. 6, Book 60, Hadith 47]

7. Every time he passes the Black Stone he should face it and say ‘Allaahu Akbar’, and in the rest of his Tawaf he should recite whatever he likes of dhikr, du’aa’ and Qur’an, because Tawaf around the Ka’bah has been established for the remembrance of Allaah.

In Tawaf men should do two things:

A – Uncovering the right shoulder (idtibaa’) from the beginning of tawaf until the end. This is done by placing the middle of the rida’ (upper garment) beneath the right armpit and the ends of the rida’ over the left shoulder. When the

pilgrim finishes tawaf, he should put his rida’ back as it was before tawaf, because the time for wearing it with one shoulder uncovered is only in tawaf.

B – Raml in the first three circuits only. Raml means walking quickly with short steps. In the last four circuits there is no raml, rather the pilgrim should walk normally.

8. When the pilgrim has completed seven circuits of tawaf, he should cover his right shoulder and then go to the Station of Ibraheem (Maqaam Ibraheem) and recite the:

وَاتَّخِذُوا مِن مَّقَامِ إِبْرَاهِيمَ مُصَلًّى ۖ

“And take you (people) the Maqaam (place) of Ibraheem (Abraham) [or the stone on which Ibraheem (Abraham) stood while he was building the Ka‘bah] as a place of prayer (for some of your prayers, e.g. two Rak‘at after the Tawaf of the Ka‘bah at Makkah),” [al-Baqarah 2:125]

9. Then he should pray two rak’ahs behind the Station; in the first rak’ah after reciting al-Faatihah he should recite Soorat al-Kaafiroon; (109) and in the second, Soorat al-Ikhlaas; (112).

10. Then when he has finished this prayer he should go to the Black Stone and touch it if he can. It is prescribed at this point to touch it only; if he cannot do that then he should go away and not point to it.

Afterwards, a pilgrim should head towards As-Safa to perform saa’i (going between As-Safa and Al-Marwah).

2. Saa’i

For a pilgrim performing Hajj Tamatuu’- A pilgrim wears Ihram for Umrah only during the months of Hajj, which means when a pilgrim reaches Makkah, he/she makes Tawaf and Saa’i for Umrah.

For a pilgrim performing Hajj Qiraan or Ifraad he performs Tawaf for his arrival and Saa’i for Hajj When he reaches Makkah, It is permissible for him to postpone his Saa’i for Hajj until after his Tawaf for Hajj.

1. Conditions of the validity of Saa’i:

2. Steps of performing Saa’i

1. He should go out to the Mas’aa (place for saa’i) and when he comes near to al-Safa’ he should face the Ka’bah and recite (interpretation of the meaning):

إِنَّ الصَّفَا وَالْمَرْوَةَ مِن شَعَائِرِ اللَّهِ ۖ

“Verily, As-Safa and Al-Marwah (two mountains in Makkah) are of the Symbols of Allaah” [al-Baqarah 2:158]

2. And he should say:

“Abda’u bima bada’a Allaah bihi (We start with that with which Allaah started).”

3. Then he should climb al-Safa until he can see the Ka’bah, then he should face it and say thrice:

There is no true God but Allah, Allah is the Greatest

4. Then he should raise his hands and praise Allah, and make du’aa’ as he wishes. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to say:

“Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah wahdahu laa shareeka lah, lahu’l-mulk, wa lahu’l-hamd, wa huwa ‘ala kulli shay’in qadeer. Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah wahdah, anjaza wa’dah, wa nasara ‘abdah, wa hazamaa al-ahzaaba wahdah

(There is no god but Allah alone, with no partner or associate; His is the Dominion, all praise is due to Him, and He is able to do all things. There is no god but Allah alone; he fulfilled His promise, granted victory to His slave, and defeated the confederates alone). [” Narrated by Muslim, 1218.]

5. He should repeat that three times, and make du’aa’ in between. He should recite this dhikr then make du’aa’, then recite it again and make du’aa’, and recite it a third time, then come down to al-Marwah.

6. When he reaches the green marker he should run as quickly as he can without disturbing anyone, because it was proven that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) did saa’i between al-Safa and al-Marwah, and he said,

“The river bed is not crossed except with vigor.”

[Narrated by Ibn Maajah and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah, 2419.]

The river bed [it was a dried river bed in the time of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)] is the area between the two green markers that stand there now.

7. When he reaches the second green marker, he should walk normally until he reaches al-Marwah.

8. He should climb up it and turn to face the qiblah, and raise his hands and say what he had said at al-Safa. However, he doesn’t repeat the ayat as it is said only at Safa in the first round.

9. Then he should come down from al-Marwah and head for al-Safa, walking in the place of walking and running in the place of running.

10. When he reaches al-Safa he should do what he did the first time, and the same when he goes back to al-Marwah, until he has completed seven circuits; going from al-Safa’ to al-Marwah is one circuit, and coming back from al-Marwah to al-Safa is another circuit.

11. During his saa’i he can say whatever he likes or dhikr and du’aa’, and recite Qur’an. There is no specific supplication for Saa’i, except for what has been reported about making Takbeer and Tahleel on the mounts of Safa and Marwah.

3 – Shaving the head or cutting the hair

· When he has completed seven circuits (of saa’i) he should shave his head if he is a man, or cut some of his hair. If he shaves his head he must shave his entire head, and if he cuts his hair he must cut from all over his head. Shaving is better than cutting because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) made du’aa’ three times for those who shaved their heads and once for those who cut their hair. [Narrated by Muslim, 1303.]

· Women should cut the length of a fingertip from their hair.

However, those pilgrims who are performing Qiraan and Ifraad maintain their Ihram and do not shave or cut their hair after the Saa’I performed after Tawaf Al-Qudoom, he remains in Ihram till after he stones Jamrah Al-Aqaba on the Eid day

With these actions, the Umrah is complete.

Some rulings related to Circumambulation:

1. A person can pray the two Rak’ahs of circumambulation anywhere in the Sacred Mosque.

2. In occasions with a lot of rush, one can join in with the crowd, (the centripetal flow) and reach the corner of the black stone from where he should commence the Tawaf. Ensure that you don’t commence the Tawaf a step behind or after the Black stone

3. It is fine to circumambulate in the hallway and all the floors as long as you are inside the Sacred Mosque. However, the closer you are to the Ka’bah the better

4. The one who has trouble performing circumambulation due to illness, fatigue or the intensity of the crowds can circumambulate by being carried by someone or in a wheelchair. You cannot appoint someone to perform circumambulation on behalf of you.

5. If a woman prevents or stops menstruation by taking pills and is completely dry, then her circumambulation is valid after bathing.

6. When the Iqamah for prayer is heard the person should pray with the people, and then complete his circumambulation from where he stopped.

7. If a person has doubt concerning the number of rounds he has performed, he should base on certainty which is the lowest number. However, if he doubts after leaving the circumambulation or the Saa’i

there is no significance in it and he should continue on with whatever he was doing.

8. One should ensure that they circumambulate around the Ka’bah and that they shouldn’t enter into the Hijr whilst circumambulating, as it is considered to be a part of the Ka’bah.

9. If unable to touch the black stone, one is recommended to raise his RIGHT HAND and say Allahu Akbar. The person should not raise both his hands in this situation

10. Some people hug the Ka’bah, wipe their clothes on it, try to take pieces of it etc. These acts aren’t justified by the Sunnah in any way. On the contrary such acts may spoil their Hajj. One should keep in mind the hadith :

When Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him), approached the Black Stone he would say: “No doubt, I know that you are a stone and can neither harm anyone nor benefit anyone. And had I not seen Allaah’s Messenger, (Peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) kissing you I would not have kissed you.” [Bukhari and Muslim]

11. There are no specific du‘aa’s for each circuit of tawaaf, with the exception of the dua mentioned above) said at Rukum Al- Yamani.

Hence one should beware of these booklets that many pilgrims carry, in which there is a specific du‘aa’ for each circuit. This is an innovation that was not narrated from the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him). The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:

“Every innovation is a going astray.” [Narrated by Muslim.]

12. Revealing the right shoulder (Idhtibaa’) is done for the circumambulation. The shoulders should then be covered whilst praying and for Saa’i

Some rulings regarding Saa’i:

1. The verse (interpretation of the meaning): “Verily, As-Safa and Al-Marwah (two mountains in Makkah) are of the Symbols of Allaah” [Al-Baqarah 2:158] should be recited by the pilgrim who wants to perform saa’i when he approaches al-Safa at the beginning of saa’i only. It is not mustahabb to repeat it every time he approaches al-Safa and al-Marwah, as some people do.

2. The one performing Hajj At-Tamattu’ should not perform Saa’i of Hajj before ‘Arafah. As for the ones performing Ifraad and Qiraan, they can perform Saa’i after the circumambulation of arrival.

3. Ablution (purity) is not required to perform Saa’I, although we should always try to remain pure whilst performing such noble deeds

4. It is recommended for men to hurry between the two green signs.

5. It is obligatory to cross the distance between the two mounts during Saa’i, but it is not obligatory to climb the mountain. It suffices to reach the balcony on the second floor of the Mass’aa and its roof without going all the way around it.

6. There is no need to raise the hand and signal the Ka’bah from the Mounts of As-Safa and Al- Marwah. (This practice is restricted only during Tawaf wherein we signal to the black stone when we can’t touch it)

We ask Allah to help us to do righteous deeds, and to accept them from us, for He is Ever Near and responds to our prayers.

Myths Regarding the Ka’bah

The ka’bah: the holiest muslim site on earth. Muslims revere it, and face it as a direction for prayer. It is a symbol of unity, unity of muslims, and unity of all previous prophets. Muslims would travel great distances to reach it, to see its magnificent sight, to touch its beautiful kiswa, kiss it and more.

However, there are many myths that surround the Ka’bah that has gained root amongst non-muslims, and ignorant muslims, and those who perhaps have never seen it.

Let’s begin with the first myth: Muslims worship the Ka’bah. This is far from the truth. Muslims worship one God, Allah. The Ka’bah is merely a direction faced in prayer, to unite muslims. Muslims do not bow or prostrate to the Ka’bah at all, they only bow and prostrate to Allah. Hence muslims can pray in any place in the world.

Muslims touch the ka’bah to imitate the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. Some touch it out of awe and fascination at this great building that witnessed many great events in Islamic History. It witnessed, the Prophet Abraham, and Ishma’el and Muhammad peace be upon them. It is not mandated to kiss it, or cling on it, or wipe one’s face or clothes against it, rather these extreme practices have been done by some who are ignorant, or overly passionate.

Another huge misconception, is that the Ka’bah houses the idol Shiva Lingham which muslims worship. The inside of the Ka’bah is bare, there is nothing inside it. Every year the doors are opened to clean it and to welcome prestigious guests. This is often broadcasted on live television, and it is clear for all to see, that there is nothing inside the Ka’bah. Furthermore, muslims do not build or carve statues of any shape or form, as this is against the basic principle of worshiping Allah who is beyond human imagination.

Next up, no bird flies over the Ka’bah. Some believe that the ka’bah is so holy that no bird is able to fly over it, as though there is a radar system in place, preventing the birds. This is not true. Birds fly over the Ka’bah constantly, they perch on its edge, and do what birds do.

Others believe the Ka’bah hovers over the ground. It is not resting, nor rooted in the earth, but floating. It’s very easy to dispel this myth, simply look at the many images of the ka’bah that are available, look at video footage, and if you get a chance to go, have a peep. The Ka’bah is like any other building with a foundation on the ground.

Others hold the belief that the rain water that falls off the ka’bah is holy and has benefit. It is blessed, and so they collect it in a container, and bathe and drink it. I would strongly advise against this, firstly because there is nothing reported from the Prophet nor the salaf on the matter. And secondly, as mentioned previously, birds do what birds do, including leaving droppings. Hence the water that falls off the top of the Ka’bah is contaminated with bird droppings, as well as sand, and dust.

What myths have you heard?

Etiquettes of the Haram

Visiting Masjid Al Haram in Makkah is a golden opportunity in the lives of every Muslim. Every Muslim yearns to visit the Grand Masjid of Makkah Al Mukarramah. While visiting the Masjid Al Haram, one must follow the proper etiquettes in order to maintain its decorum and sanctity of the place.

There are etiquettes to be followed, no matter which mosque one enters upon. However the supremacy of Masjid Al Haram, naturally makes it a priority.

  • Maintaining purity within ourselves

Demonstrate your eagerness by wearing neat and clean clothes while visiting the masjid. Ensure that your body and clothes are clean and pure. If you have eaten garlic, onions, etc.  do not go to the mosque, until the odour from your mouth has vanished.

Jaabir Ibn ‘Abdullaah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (Peace be upon him) said: “He who has eaten garlic or onion should keep away from us or our mosques. Whoever eats garlic or onions should stay away from us” – or he said: “from our mosque” – “and he should remain at his home.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

The aforementioned hadith shows that a person who has eaten a garlic or onion (or anything similar to that) should stay away lest it cause discomfort to the other fellow believers (and angels) who have come to worship due to its pungent smell.

  • To enter with the right foot and recite the supplication of entering the mosque:

How many of us have memorized the supplication for entering the masjid? If you’ve not yet, then its the high time to commit the supplication to mind.
It is highly recommended, when entering Al-Masjid Al-Haraam, like other mosques, to supplicate with the following beautiful supplication:
“A‘oothu billaahi Al-‘Atheem wa biwajhihi al-kareem wa sultaanihi al-qadeemi min ash-shaytaan ar-rajeem; al-hamdu lilaah; Allaahumma salli wa sallim ‘ala Muhammad wa ‘ala aali Muhammad. Allaahumma ighfir lee thunoobi waftah lee abwaaba rahmatik.

Translation – I seek refuge with Allah, the Most Great, and with His bounteous Countenance and eternal Power from Satan the expelled (from the mercy of Allah). All perfect praise be to Allah. O Allah, send blessings and peace upon Muhammad and upon his family. O Allah, forgive my sins and open the gates of Your mercy before me.
Then, one should say, “In the Name of Allah,” and proceed with the right foot to enter the masjid. In this way we not only follow the sunnah of our beloved Messenger (Peace be upon him), but also we gain good rewards from Allah (Glory Be To Him).

  • The prayer of salutations to the Masjid (tahiyyatul masjid)

Another imperative etiquette is performing the two rakah as the tahiyyatul masjid. This is evident from the following hadith.

Abu Qatadah reports that the Messenger of Allah said: “When one of you comes to the mosque, he should pray two rak’at before he sits.” [Fiqh Us Sunnah, Volume 2, Page 70]

The Tahiyyatul Masjid is established to observe the sanctity and greatness of the house of Allah (Glory be to Him). One should not forget to pray the Tahiyyatul Masjid as it is highly recommended.

  • Spend time in the remembrance of Allah

Who wouldn’t like to avail the grand opportunity of remembering Allah while in Masjid Al Haram? Of course no one!
While you’re in the Grand masjid or any other masajid, take the utmost advantage of the Holy place and remember Allah with much remembrance.

“O you who believe! Remember Allah with much remembrance, and glorify Him morning and evening.” (Surah Ahzab, Verse 41)

  • Recite the supplication for leaving the masjid

When exiting the mosque, step out with the left foot and recite the following supplication:

“Bismillah. Allahumma salli ‘alal Muhammad, wa ‘ala aali Muhammad, faghfir dhunoobi waftak abwabaka fadlik”

“(I exit) In the Name of Allah. O’ Allah! Send Your prayers upon Muhammad and the progeny of Muhammad and forgive my sins and open the doors of Your grace (to me).”

Our Beloved Messenger (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “the markets are the worst places and the masajid are the best places on earth.” (Ibn Majah 1/257)

The markets makes one forget Allah and occupies the heart in attaining the dunya through trade. Hence, they are the worst places on earth. The masajid are the best since they detach us from the world and it’s affairs, and brings us closer to Allah (Glory Be To Him).

In conclusion, whenever a person visits a mosque, they should observe the etiquettes listed above, as it will Inshallah, be a means of increasing their good deeds and earning the favour of Allah.

Maha Bint Nayeem,

Writer, AAT

Reflection: The Creator or the creation?

In the name of Allah, The Creator, The Exalter, The Bestower. Whomever Allah guides, none can misguide him. And whomever is misguided, none can guide him.

One of the hardest things, when it comes to socialising, mingling and befriending people, is that sometimes we do not stand on the same ground. If a difference of opinion was necessary, I wouldn’t mind. I think I could live with that. What bothers me is when people give another opinions, on something that has been stated clearly. We like to find excuse. We look for excuses to justify our wrongdoings. More than often, these lead to us obeying and looking for approval from the creation, which in turn, results in us disobeying Allah’s law.  I have been doing a lot of self-reflection, repeatedly asking myself, “Who do I fear the most?” A threat or the displeasure of a mere human means nothing compared to the wrath of The Almighty.

You know how experience leads you to self-reflection and brings you closer to Allah… Well, I am going to share few stories, from my own experience in dealing with people who provide excuse to legalise something that is forbidden in the deen. InshaAllah, let this be a lesson for us, to reflect and ponder, who do we really want to please?

Story One

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One time, our ruler visited our workplace. Everyone kept telling me to offer my hand to the ruler, to shake. I refused to do so, as the ruler is a non-mahram. I heard a lot of people scrutinising me, telling me that it is halal for me to shake hand with him, as he is the ruler.  Amazingly enough, everyone started becoming a scholar, giving their own fatwaa: ‘it is halal because he is a ruler, which means he has unlimited power.’ I refuted it by telling everyone that Allah is The Greatest, Allah’s rules are superior compare to any rules set by His slaves! Have we forgotten what Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihi Wassalam said in the hadith?

It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.”

(Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486. Shaykh al-Albaani said in Sahih al-Jaami’, 5045, that this hadith is sahih.)

It was narrated that Umaymah the daughter of Raqeeqah said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “I do not shake hands with women.” (Narrated by al-Nasaa’i (4181) and Ibn Maajah, 2874; classed as sahih by al-Albaani in Sahih al-Jaami’, 2513.) 

For further clarification this is the opinion of the four madhahibs :

  • The Hanafi madhhab:

Ibn Nujaym said:

“It is not permissible for a man to touch a woman’s face or hands even if there is no risk of desire because it is haraam in principle and there is no necessity that would allow it.”  (Al-Bahr al-Raa’iq, 8/219)

  • The Maaliki madhhab:

Muhammad ibn Ahmad (‘Ulaysh) said:

It is not permissible for a man to touch the face or hand of a non-mahram woman, and it is not permissible for him to put his hand on hers without a barrier. ‘Aa’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) never accepted a woman’s oath of allegiance by shaking hands with her; rather he (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to accept their oath of allegiance by words only.” According to another report, “His hand never touched the hand of a woman, rather he would accept their oath of allegiance by words only.” (Manh al-Jaleel Sharh Mukhtasar Khaleel, 1/223)

  • The Shaafa’i madhhab:

Al-Nawawi said: “It is not permissible to touch a woman in any way.” (Al-Majmoo’, 4/515.)

Wali al-Deen al-‘Iraaqi said: “This indicates that the hand of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not touch the hand of any woman apart from his wives and concubines, whether in the case of accepting the oath of allegiance or in other cases. If he did not do that despite the fact that he was infallible and beyond suspicion, then it is even more essential that others heed this prohibition. It appears from the texts that he refrained from doing that because it was haraam for him to do so. The fuqaha’ among our companions and others said that it is haraam to touch a non-mahram woman even if that is not touching parts of her body that are not ‘awrah, such as her face. But they differed with regard to looking when there is no desire and no fear of fitnah. The prohibition on touching is stronger than the prohibition on looking, and it is haraam when there is no necessity that would allow it. If it is the case of necessity, e.g. medical treatment, removing a tooth or treating the eyes, etc., if there is no woman who can do that, then it is permissible for a non-mahram to do that because it is the case of necessity.” (Tarh al-Tathreeb, 7/45, 46)

  • The Hanbali madhhab

Ibn Muflih said: Abu ‘Abd-Allaah – i.e., Imam Ahmad – was asked about a man who shakes hands with a woman. He said, No, and was emphatic that it is haraam. I said, Should he shake hands with her from beneath his garment? He said, No.

Shaykh Taqiy al-Deen also favoured the view that it is prohibited, and gave the reason that touching is more serious than looking. (Al-Adaab al-Shar’iyyah, 2/257 )

Story Two

I was asked by a friend, “can I pluck my eyebrows?” I replied, “No”. Then came the excuse, “my husband wanted me to pluck my eyebrows. Pleasing my husband is my priority”. Again, I wasn’t aware that pleasing one’s husband is more important than obeying Allah.

It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah said: “Allah has cursed the women who do tattoos and those who ask for tattoos to be done, those who ask for their eyebrows to be plucked, and the women ask for their teeth to be filed for the purpose of beautification, changing the creation of Allah.” A woman from the tribe of Bani Asad whose name was Umm Ya’qoob heard of that and she came and said, “I have heard that you have cursed so-and-so and so-and-so.” He said, “Why should I not curse those whom the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) cursed and who are mentioned in the Book of Allah?’ She said, “I have read what is between the two covers [of the Qur’an], and I did not find anything in it like what you have said.” He said, “If you have read it, have you not read that Allah says, 

‘And whatsoever the Messenger (Muhammad) gives you, take it; and whatsoever he forbids you, abstain (from it)’ [al-Hashr 59:7]?”

She said, “Of course.” He said, “He forbade that.” She said, “I think your wife does it.” He said, “Go and look.” So she went and looked and she did not see what she was looking for. He said, “If she had been like that, she would not be with us.”  (Muslim No: 2125)

Story Three

I attended a marriage course before my wedding, as it was a must for me to be able to get married. They had an ustadh who was supposed to guide the muslimahs, on how to become a good wife. The result? I hated every session, and most of the time, disagreed with the ustadh. He talked about the necessity of wearing perfume outside of the house. His reasoning? “We do not want to smell badly around others right?” “Allah likes pretty things right?” I refuted his reasons by quoting the hadeeth of Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihi Wassalam. He replied back, “It all depends on our niyyah. We do not have to follow everything the nabi did”. Imagine my reaction to that. We should do our best to follow the Sunnah completely!

It was narrated from Abu Moosa (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “If a woman puts on perfume and passes by people so that they can smell her fragrance, then she is such and such,” and he spoke sternly – meaning an adulteress. (Narrated by Abu Dawood (4173) and al-Tirmidhi (2786); classed as saheeh by Ibn Daqeeq al-Eid in al-Iqtiraah (126) and by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.)

The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Any woman who puts on perfume and passes by people so that they can smell her fragrance is a zaaniyah.” Narrated by Imam Ahmad (19212) and al-Nasaa’i (5126); classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami‘.

Our problem lies in who we want to please. All the stories above shows the power of the creation on our Iman. We often overlook the determination the shaytaan has to misguide us. If we look around us, we tend to overlook some things, not realising the harm it has on our Iman. For example, iktilaath on the internet. Women and men mingle freely, in the name of learning the deen. Another excuse to overlook the rules and guidelines in the deen to satisfy our nafs, and please human.

Am I saying that we can’t please the creation? La. Of course we can, but that doesn’t mean we need to compromise the religion. We still need to treat people nicely.

The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said, in the hadith qudsi, was that Allah, may He be blessed and exalted, said: “O My slaves, I have forbidden zulm (injustice, wrongdoing, unfairness) to Myself and I have made it haraam among you, so do not wrong one another.” (Muslim no: 2577)

But when it is against the deen, of course we need to please The Creator first. It is time for us to set our priorities right. Why the need to bend the rules in order to please the creation who has no power over us? Have we forgotten the reason why we are created? (Hint – Surah Dhaariyaat 51:56). What has been set as haraam, will remain haraam, and what has been set us halaal will remain so. No human, Allah’s servants, can alter this!

And do not say about what your tongues assert of untruth, “This is lawful and this is unlawful,” to invent falsehood about Allah. Indeed, those who invent falsehood about Allah will not succeed. (16:116)

O you who have believed, do not prohibit the good things which Allah has made lawful to you and do not transgress. Indeed, Allah does not like transgressors. (5:87)

Wallahu’alam. Allah knows best.

Anisah Matasim,

Writer, AAT