To my dearest sister and friend,
Dealing with high levels of stress on a day to day basis is difficult to say the least. Everyone wants a peaceful, normal life, where everything is under control. Life on earth is not a piece of cake, I assure you, and true peace is only found when we step in Jannah.
Battling with anxiety and depression in some cases is worse. That’s why I’m writing this. To help you overcome these issues. I’m no psychologist or psychiatrist, nor am I a scholar or a healer, but these tips are based upon what I have picked up here and there. I hope my list helps.
The Duaa for anxiety as taught by the Prophet (peace be upon him).
Who was a better teacher than our beloved Prophet (peace be upon him) who taught us the best way of life, and taught us the truth? His words were true, and we should take a firm grip on to them and apply his Sunnah in our lives.
‘O Allah, I am Your servant, son of Your servant, son of Your maidservant, my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every name belonging to You which You name Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the unseen with You, that You make the Qur’an the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety.’ (You should know and understand the meaning too, as only then can you read the duaa with sincerity)
The Qur’an as a medicine:
Allah has told us that the Qur’an is a shifaa for us, it is a cure for our all our ailments.
Allah says, “O mankind, there has come to you an instruction from your Lord, and a healing for what is in the breasts and guidance and mercy for the believers.” (Surah Yunus 10:57)
But how can the Quran be a cure, if we do not read it or put it into practice? When we read the Qur’an with understanding only then can it become the life and light of our hearts (as mentioned in the supplication above). If we ponder upon the words of Allah, we will find satisfaction, as we realise each and every verse is addressed to us, and for every problem there is a solution. It seems a clichéd statement, but look for yourself, and see what you find. There are many ayats that will make you feel better, and know that this life is merely temporary and the hereafter is where our happiness lies.
Be reassured by the words of Allah:
“Verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find ease.” Remembering Allah constantly will bring happiness, for you know your affairs rests in the Hands of One who never tires, who is All-encompassing in His knowledge, and who is the source of Peace (As-Salaam).
Worries end where prayer begins:
Pray on time, and make extra supplications. Turn to Allah, He is the only One who can help you,
“And if Allah should touch you with adversity, there is no remover of it except Him, and if He touches you with good, then He is over all things competent.” (06:17-23)
Know that Allah is As-Samee’ (All-Hearing), Al-Baseer (All-seeing), Al-Khabeer (All-Aware) of what is happening to you. Allah is Al-Mujeeb (The Responder),
“And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me – indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me. So let them respond to Me [by obedience] and believe in Me that they may be [rightly] guided.” (Surah Baqarah 02:186)
Allah has also said, “Is He [not best] who responds to the desperate one when he calls upon Him and removes evil and makes you inheritors of the earth? Is there a deity with Allah? Little do you remember.” (An-Naml, 27:62)
Ask Allah for cure, ask for help, for tranquility and everything else that worries or bothers you. Talk to Allah, pour your heart out to Him.
Know that Allah is the One who Cures.
You can visit as many doctors as you want, you can travel the globe visiting specialists, but if Allah does not give you cure, then you shall not be cured. He is Ash-Shafi, the One who cures. Turn to Him for your remedy.
Morning and evening athkar:
Begin your day with the right foot. By reading the morning Athkar, you are praising Allah, thanking Him for the blessings He has bestowed upon you, and you are seeking His protection from harms that may afflict you during the day. What greater protection is there, than the protection of Allah, when He is The Mighty, The Compelling, The Powerful?
Use the Duaa of Yunus:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “No Muslim ever prays to his Lord with these words for anything, but He will answer his prayer.” (Recorded by At-Tirmidhi, An-Nasa’i in Al-Yawm wal-Laylah)
He also said, ““Whoever offers supplication in the words of the supplication of Yunus, will be answered.”
In this duaa one admits to Allah, that he has faults and thus expresses his need to Allah. We all know the duaa is the weapon of the believer, so utilise what you are equipped with. If Satan’s supplication for respite till the Day of recompense was granted, then why wouldn’t yours?!
Have full and complete trust in Allah that He takes care of your matters. Entrust yourself and your affairs to His care, and Know that He will not fail you. “And whoever relies upon Allah, then He is sufficient for Him.” (At-Talaq 65:03)
Have Taqwa of Allah at all times:
The month in which our Taqwa was cultivated has just passed (i.e. Ramadaan), so it should be running in our systems. Allah says, “And whoever fears Allah, He will make for him a way out, And will provide for Him from where He does not expect…And whoever fears Allah, He will make for him his matters ease.” (At-Talaq 65:2-4)
This is a guarantee from the Lord of the Worlds, who never fails in His promise, what other reassurance do we need? May Allah grant us ease.
Sins block the ways of our duaa, so repenting from sins will open a way for you.
Allah will only give you that which you can bear:
If it’s a test, then know that you are afflicted with it, because you have the ability to pull through it. “Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity.” (Surah Al-Baqarah 02:286)
You have the strength to make it through.
Remove the distress of another muslim:
The prophet (may peace be upon him) said, “A Muslim is a Muslim’s brother: he does not wrong him or abandon him. If anyone cares for his brother’s need, Allah will care for his need; if anyone removes a Muslim’s anxiety, Allah will remove from him, on account of it, one of the anxieties of the Day of resurrection; and if anyone conceals a Muslim’s fault, Allah will conceal his fault on the Day of resurrection.” (Sahih by Albani, Sunan Abi Dawud, Book 43, No. 121)
Put it down to waswasa (whisperings of Satan):
Anxiety can be difficult to deal with. If you put it down to waswasa, and Shaytaan trying to mess with your mind it may be easier to overcome. You can put it behind you, and move on. It will only increase your determination to fight against the shaytaan, and these negative thoughts. Embrace positivity!
Be grateful for the million of other bounties that you enjoy:
The blessings of Allah are countless, and the biggest Ni’mah (blessings) we have is that of Islam. Alhamdulillah that Allah has blessed us with this deen, so that in hardships we can turn to Him, and know that it is all going to be ok. Remember that though you are going through difficulty, THANK Allah for everything else you have. Look at those who have less than you.
Be patient with your affliction, know that reward awaits:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Never a believer is stricken with a discomfort, an illness, an anxiety, a grief or mental worry or even the pricking of a thorn but Allah will expiate his sins on account of his patience.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
Accept the Qadr:
Allah knows what is best for you. Perhaps He is testing you, that you may earn a great reward, or that He is averting harm that is worse. Everything has already been decreed, “the pens have been lifted and the pages are dried.” Imam Ash-Shafi’i is reported to have said, “my heart is at ease knowing that which was meant for me will never miss me, and that which misses me, was never meant for me.” Be content with the decree of Allah.
I hope that these tips will help you. I only intended to write ten points, to make it easy, but subhanallah, how can I limit my work to ten points when the deen is filled and the Qur’an and Sunnah are pouring out to me?
The last thing I would say to you is; know that Allah is merciful to the Believers, fear Him as He should be feared and He will facilitate everything for you, He looks after you, and we are under His care.
He is Al-Jabbar, The Mender of Broken Hearts!